How To Tell If Your Date Is Really Into You

When you are out on a date, there are a lot of things that are running through your mind. You might be wondering if your jokes are falling flat or if your date likes the way you are dressed.

Of course, these are just smaller concerns when looking at the big picture: is your date actually interested in you at all?

Sometimes, it’s easy to see if a person is bored or if you just aren’t clicking, but what if they are just being polite and hiding the fact that they aren’t interested?

This can be especially devastating if you think that things are going well, but never hear back from them again. Thankfully, there are a few signs that you can keep an eye out for to make sure that things are going well, or to let you know that you need to switch things up a bit.

One of the easiest ways to see if someone is interested in you is to look at their body language. You can tell a lot about how a person is feeling just by knowing what to look for, in their posture and movements.

For example, sitting posture can reveal quite a bit about a person. If they are leaning towards you while you speak, it means that they are interested and don’t want to miss a word.

At the same time, don’t worry if you spot your date leaning back from time to time to relax. This may just another indicator that they are comfortable around you, which is a great thing for a first date.

The best indicator for how they are feeling is to take a look at where his feet and belt buckle is pointed. It’s it’s directed at you, then it’s almost a guarantee that he’s very interested.

Other body signals that you can receive are through playful taps and touches. Your date may compliment you on your hair and then touch it, but it’s just an excuse for them to be able to make contact with you.

Some may use the teasing approach to touch you, while others will go the complimentary route. Either way, it’s a good thing if your date is looking for a reason to touch you, because that means they are interested in you.

While there are many things that a person can fake, blushing is not one of them. See if you date smiles and blushes from time to time. and easy way to do this is to give them a compliment such as “I love your sense of humor” or “You have amazing eyes”.

If they do, they are genuine about their feelings and can’t help themselves around you. Another hard-to-copy habit is the act of mimicking someone’s movements.

When people are deep into conversation, they often copy the actions of the person they are speaking to. If you scratch your nose, so will they. If you lean back in your chair, they might do the same. This effect is something that happens when people are engaged, or interested.

Ok, enough about body language, what about some other aspects?

Does your date ask you a lot of questions about yourself? Do they want to know more about your aspirations and passions in life?

Chances are pretty high that they aren’t just trying to be nosey, but genuinely want to know more about you as a person.

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By understanding what makes you excited in life and who you hang around, your date is able to get a clearer picture of who you are as a complete person.

In this day and age, it’s really easy to be distracted by other things that are going on. If your date ignores their phone (or doesn’t look at it at all) that’s a great sign.

With so many ways for people to access things like Facebook and Twitter, a boring date can lead to individuals seeking shelter in something that takes them out of the moment. If you realize that you’ve been receiving a number of calls or text messages and need to check them, please excuse yourself to the restroom and take care of them in there.

On the flip side, the fact that they ignore a call means that they would rather spend time with you than break off for even a second, and that’s a very wonderful feeling.

Even though most people only notice when others have their phones out, noticing that it never appears even once is a great indicator that your date is having a great time and doesn’t want any interruptions.

Lastly, the easiest way to know if a date is really into you is if they simply try to extend the time you have together. Do they order one more round or suggest stopping by one little shop for a snack before you head back from the theater?

If so, they aren’t uncomfortable being around you. Instead, they are trying to think of ways to keep you two together so that the night doesn’t have to end so quickly.

When the date is winding down and they ask if you’d enjoy a night cap, this is a pretty definite sign that they are really into you.

While your head may be swimming with doubt as you are on your date, keep these tips in mind and mentally check them off as you see them happen.

If they happen frequently, rest assured that your date is having a good time and enjoy the moment yourself.

Okay, that’s all for today.

Talk soon,

Joshua Rose

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Leave A Reply (4 comments so far)

  1. Emily
    9 years ago

    That’s very true, Kim. Someone’s eyes can often speak louder than their mouths.

  2. Kim Rawks
    9 years ago

    I think eye contact is a big thing. If he can’t stop looking at you, he’s into you. Period. 🙂

  3. bree
    10 years ago

    I like these tips! I have had a few dates where I wasn’t sure if he was into me or not and after reading this post, I guess he was. He didn’t really say anything at the time and we just left it at that, one or two dates and nothing more. Maybe I sent the wrong signals or the fact that I couldn’t read his countered them.

  4. Jessica Edwards
    10 years ago

    I have taken a few “reading body language” classes due to the occupation I’m in. As soon as I meet someone I find myself sizing them up based on their body language. You can usually tell alt about some one within the first 5-10 minutes. I think knowing these skills have probably spared me a lot of painful dates.